"~~Oh I want something just ….." I finished singing.
The butler burst into applause. "It was a wonderful song," Alfred expressed his praise. "I'm sure Barbara liked it very much, too."
"Thank you, I hope so," I looked at the quiet girl.
"Yes, I liked it," she answered and fell silent again. It seemed that my confession caused her a little confusion. Barbara Gordon… When I first saw her, I felt a sense of obsession.
After all, this was Batgirl, the superheroine of Gotham City! She was also one of the most beautiful and desirable women in comics. How would you feel if you saw her in real life? Now imagine how I felt… Every person has a desire to have what he wants.
I am not without this sin either… And as I have already told you, in order to win a girl, you need to understand her primary love language. For Barbara, these are "words of encouragement" or, in other words, "approval".
One of the ways to express love emotionally is to use words of support. Compliments are one of the ways to express support for your other half. Verbal compliments, or words of approval, are powerful communicators of love.
Another dialect of this language is words of encouragement. The word encourage carries the meaning of "awaken courage".
Each of us has areas where we do not feel confident. We lack courage, and this lack of courage holds us back from doing the useful things we would like to do.
It is possible that the potential hidden deep inside a person is just waiting for your words of encouragement. But here it is necessary to take into account one thing.
In no way should you put pressure on your girlfriend in order to achieve the desired result. You just need to inspire her to develop the interests that she already has.
Encouragement requires the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes, the ability to see the world from your partner's point of view.
First of all, we must find out what is most important to the girl. And only then can we express words of encouragement. In this way we are trying to convey the message: "I know, I am worried. I am with you. How can I help?"
We are trying to show that we believe in her, in her abilities. It is also worth remembering that love is kind. And if we want to convey feelings of love in words, then we need to use kind words.
The manner of speech is also important. Depending on how you say it, the same sentence can have different meanings. The statement "I love you" said with kindness and tenderness can be a sincere declaration of love. But what about this intonation: "I love you?" The question mark radically changes the meaning of these three words. Sometimes our words say one thing, but the tone of our voice says something completely different.
Also, it should be taken into account that love asks, not demands. If we want to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other's desires.
However, how we express our desires is of great importance. If they are demands, then we thereby block the path to intimacy and push our partner away. If our needs and desires are recognized as a request, then this is a hint, not an ultimatum. When you make a request to your girlfriend,You are affirming her value and capabilities. You are essentially pointing out that she can do or has something that is meaningful and valuable to you.
When, on the contrary, you demand, then you turn from a loving person into a tyrant. Your girlfriend will feel not support, but humiliation. A request carries an element of choice.
Your beloved can either accept the request or refuse to fulfill it, since love is always a choice. This is what gives it meaning. Words of approval are one of the five main love languages. Some even argue that the greatest human need is most likely the need for approval.
From the very beginning of our acquaintance, I have constantly complimented Barbara. Of course, I did this only at appropriate moments and in reasonable quantities. Despite the fact that this is her love language, if such words are said inappropriately, it will cause a more negative reaction.
I can give you an example of Nightwing. According to our superheroine, he showered her with compliments all the time, but this did not touch her heart. Do not forget to express support for your loved one.
I always tried to show Barbara words of encouragement, because this was how I let her know that I believe in her and will always be there. I also tried to keep the notes of demandingness when addressing her to a minimum. And you know, this is difficult when you are her immediate superior. And you know, looking at her now, I begin to understand that my efforts still managed to pave the way for me to her heart.
She is still trying to understand the authenticity of her feelings, and make a decision for herself.
"Barbara," the butler called out to her with obvious concern in his voice. "Is everything okay?"
"Huh?" As if waking up from sleep, her eyes regained clarity, and a firm determination was visible in them. "Yes, do not worry, Alfred, I was just thinking .... Alex and I will go for a night walk, so the cave remains under your supervision."
"Don't worry, I will be able to answer Mister Dick's call if something happens. Go and have a nice walk," Pennyworth said in a warm voice and a gentle smile, as if showing a father's approval of his daughter.
It seemed he could see the girl's heart and showed his support. In response to his words, the girl only nodded understandingly.
"Alex, let's run across the rooftops of Gotham?" Barbara asked, heading towards the display case where the Batgirl costume was hanging. "Of course!"
"Then you need some appropriate attire. It would be a hassle if you were suddenly recognized while you were jumping across the rooftops. You can wear one of Robin's outfits for now," she suggested, pointing to a wide selection of choices.
"Um, I think I'll still wear something from my wardrobe," I said, taking a few steps back from these stupid outfits. Frankly, I never liked the "Wonder Boy" outfit.
Why did he even choose this bright yellow and red suit? Batman's entire suit is black, even the bat emblem. And thank God it is, because I always hated it when it was on a yellow background.
The black armor is completely justified, because the protector of Gotham City only operates under the cover of night. And such attire allows him to be in the dark, as in his native element. What's the justification for Robin's yellow and red outfit? It just draws more attention to himself! Or is that the whole point? Hell, I'm even embarrassed to ask Batman about it!
"Do you have a suitable suit that can hide your appearance?" Gordon asked, doubtfully.
"I think so," I pulled out a suitable outfit from my inventory and began to put it on. And here I was, in a black cloak, with a white mask on my face. I had ordered this outfit from the tailor Leo Zelinsky from New York Marvel a long time ago. And I made the mask myself in a workshop, relatively recently.
Now I completely resembled the Black Reaper from the anime "Darker than Black".
"And allow me to ask this, but why do you carry this cloak and mask with you?" Batgirl asked, already standing in battle gear.
"Just in case, suddenly someone needs my help, with this I can be there in my superhero outfit." I stood in a victory stance, raising my nose.
"I don't even want to hear more," she started the Batcycle. "Get on, and let's go."
I didn't hesitate, and sitting behind her, I hugged her tightly around the waist. At first she wanted to tell me something, but in the end she just silently announced her approval. And so, having left the cave, Gotham at night awaited us.
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